GIRL POWER: Sinead O’Connor Speaks The Truth to Miley Cyrus (@MileyCyrus)

Hey Fashionistas:

Long time no talk to. Today, I came across this letter that really needs no introduction. It is an open letter written to Miley Cyrus by Sinead O’Connor. This letter says so much and I hope that many young women read it and absorb her words of wisdom. Thank you, Ms. Connor and the very best to you, Miley!


Dear Miley,

I wasn’t going to write this letter, but today I’ve been dodging phone calls from various newspapers who wished me to remark upon your having said in Rolling Stone your Wrecking Ball video was designed to be similar to the one for Nothing Compares… So this is what I need to say… And it is said in the spirit of motherliness and with love.

I am extremely concerned for you that those around you have led you to believe, or encouraged you in your own belief, that it is in any way ‘cool’ to be naked and licking sledgehammers in your videos. It is in fact the case that you will obscure your talent by allowing yourself to be pimped, whether its the music business or yourself doing the pimping.

Nothing but harm will come in the long run, from allowing yourself to be exploited, and it is absolutely NOT in ANY way an empowerment of yourself or any other young women, for you to send across the message that you are to be valued (even by you) more for your sexual appeal than your obvious talent.

I am happy to hear I am somewhat of a role model for you and I hope that because of that you will pay close attention to what I am telling you.

The music business doesn’t give a shit about you, or any of us. They will prostitute you for all you are worth, and cleverly make you think its what YOU wanted.. and when you end up in rehab as a result of being prostituted, ‘they’ will be sunning themselves on their yachts in Antigua, which they bought by selling your body and you will find yourself very alone.

None of the men ogling you give a shit about you either, do not be fooled. Many’s the woman mistook lust for love. If they want you sexually that doesn’t mean they give a fuck about you. All the more true when you unwittingly give the impression you don’t give much of a fuck about yourself. And when you employ people who give the impression they don’t give much of a fuck about you either. No one who cares about you could support your being pimped.. and that includes you yourself.

Yes, I’m suggesting you don’t care for yourself. That has to change. You ought be protected as a precious young lady by anyone in your employ and anyone around you, including you. This is a dangerous world. We don’t encourage our daughters to walk around naked in it because it makes them prey for animals and less than animals, a distressing majority of whom work in the music industry and it’s associated media.

You are worth more than your body or your sexual appeal. The world of showbiz doesn’t see things that way, they like things to be seen the other way, whether they are magazines who want you on their cover, or whatever.. Don’t be under any illusions.. ALL of them want you because they’re making money off your youth and your beauty.. which they could not do except for the fact your youth makes you blind to the evils of show business. If you have an innocent heart you can’t recognise those who do not.

I repeat, you have enough talent that you don’t need to let the music business make a prostitute of you. You shouldn’t let them make a fool of you either. Don’t think for a moment that any of them give a flying fuck about you. They’re there for the money.. we’re there for the music. It has always been that way and it will always be that way. The sooner a young lady gets to know that, the sooner she can be REALLY in control.

You also said in Rolling Stone that your look is based on mine. The look I chose, I chose on purpose at a time when my record company were encouraging me to do what you have done. I felt I would rather be judged on my talent and not my looks. I am happy that I made that choice, not least because I do not find myself on the proverbial rag heap now that I am almost 47 yrs of age.. which unfortunately many female artists who have based their image around their sexuality, end up on when they reach middle age.

Real empowerment of yourself as a woman would be to in future refuse to exploit your body or your sexuality in order for men to make money from you. I needn’t even ask the question… I’ve been in the business long enough to know that men are making more money than you are from you getting naked. Its really not at all cool. And its sending dangerous signals to other young women. Please in future say no when you are asked to prostitute yourself. Your body is for you and your boyfriend. It isn’t for every spunk-spewing dirt-bag on the net, or every greedy record company executive to buy his mistresses diamonds with.

As for the shedding of the Hannah Montana image.. whoever is telling you getting naked is the way to do that does absolutely NOT respect your talent, or you as a young lady. Your records are good enough for you not to need any shedding of Hannah Montana. She’s waaaaaaay gone by now.. Not because you got naked but because you make great records.

Whether we like it or not, us females in the industry are role models and as such we have to be extremely careful what messages we send to other women. The message you keep sending is that its somehow cool to be prostituted.. its so not cool Miley… its dangerous. Women are to be valued for so much more than their sexuality. we aren’t merely objects of desire. I would be encouraging you to send healthier messages to your peers.. that they and you are worth more than what is currently going on in your career. Kindly fire any motherfucker who hasn’t expressed alarm, because they don’t care about you.


BEAUTY: Tamar Braxton Uncovers Struggle With Vitiligo [PHOTOS]

Tamar Braxton, the youngest Braxton sister, and the life of the show, The Braxton’s Family Values has come out and let it be known that she has vitiligo, a skin disease which causes discoloration.

After the debut of the hit show, Braxton’s Family Values in 2011, rumors came out in the press that Tamar was bleaching her skin. Unfair  journalism blogging was done in, my opinion. No one actually took out the time to do their research and ask the tough questions before making a conclusion about Tamar and why she appeared to be lighter than all of the other Braxtons.

In an exclusive interview with Ebony this week, she laid the rumors to rest by revealing that her lighter-toned skin is due to vitiligo, a skin disease which causes discoloration. She also stated that she has had it at a very young age.

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GIRL POWER: Honoring the Women of History: Miss Lena Horne…

Lena Horne was not just a pretty face, but a legend not only of her time but the present too. She was a very successful singer, dancer, actress, and more importantly a civil rights activist.

Miss Lena Mary Calhoun Horne was an African American, born on June 30, 1917 in the Bedford-Stuyvesant neighborhood of Brooklyn, New York. Her mother, Edna Scottron, and father, Edwin “Teddy” Horne were middle-class people and very educated.

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INTERVIEW: How a tweet to @EvelynLozada changed Rose Amilcar’s Prom!

According to (2012)  families spend between $1,000 to $2,000 during the prom season on everything from the perfect dress to the dinner for two. Want to know what the family spends the most on? If you guessed the prom dress, then you are absolutely right. Your question may be why the prom dress, but if you’ve been to the prom you know that the first thing you notice about the girl is her dress. The color, the cut, the jewels, the length, etc. those are the things you notice and those are the things that tell about the girls personality and fashion sense.

A girl (or rather her parents) can spend an average of $231-$1,000+ on a dress just to impress her peers and feel absolutely beautiful, so finding a dress to match her emotions and personality at half the cost is a HUGE blessing!

Well recently, a humble young lady from a small rural city, called Belle Glade in south Florida got better than that! She got a FREE dress brought from no other than famous Basketball Wife, Evelyn Lozada all thanks to a tweet she made.

I wrote about the story earlier this week when Evelyn Lozada posted on her blog a beautiful letter from the young lady I did a kind deed for, Rose Amilcar.

I had the opportunity to interview Rose who told me about her tweet, her friendship with Lozada, and how her prom was a night to remember. Read for yourself.

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GIRL POWER: Evelyn Lozada (@EvelynLozada) Receives a Beautiful Letter from her Twitter Follower for Helping Her With Prom!

Basketball Wife, Evelyn Lozada went out of her way to make a young girl smile for her prom. Evelyn posted on her blog yesterday entitled, “Beautiful letter from my Twitter follower Rose Amilcar” and I was curious to see what the letter was about.

When I read the post I could not help but smile.

In the beginning of the post Evelyn wrote:  “My heart is full of pure joy knowing that I was able to help one of my Twitter followers look smashingly beautiful for her prom. I’m thankful and extremely grateful to be in the position to help others. Love you Rose!” .

Read the letter below from Rose Amilcar:

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